Manners dictate the morality of your moments. Every occasion is one chance to make an impression. Stretched to perception, what we do with our time trickles down into the aura of our collective atmosphere. Even if I don’t know you, I can revere you. Feeling a safely protected stance is the chastity of dignified beings. All too often, agony and apologies are too close for comfort. You dumping your gruff attitude all over the place is similar to an ocean oil spill. You can’t delete the poop after it’s exited your body. Cleanup is harder when you opt-out of accountability. Bad things don’t just go away. So, simply don’t be the starter of sh*t at all. We have enough harassment we’re having to handle in our universe without the everyday person adding more issues. In deference to disturbances, we’d be better off when those are filled with peaceable pursuits. Chiseling common decency is the routine we should magnify.
Rudeness is the weak man’s imitation of strength. ~Edmund Burke
Rude is the root of most trauma. Typically, extraneous nonsense comes from internal chaos. The sooner you quit throwing your stress upon me the faster I’ll be able to support you with kindness. This entirely leads from the original lens. When we fail at self-care, we are continually imploding dynamite into our nervous system. The results vary but usually include a slew of miscommunications, intimidation tactics, overbearing mistreatment, and (what I consider to be the worst offense) lack of love. During a globally unique gig with a beloved girlfriend, I got roped back into an assault and battery habit I thought I’d buried in my late thirties. Everything wrong with this working picture was obvious. She’d become an automatic-anxiety rifle. Her weapon of mass destruction was taking down people due to insufficient support. Instead of asking for what she needed, she was trying to cram sturdiness through authority.
Respect for ourselves guides our morals, respect for others guides our manners. ~Laurence Sterne
Moving along the same line, I made a big instinctive mistake at London’s Heathrow airport recently. I chose the airport security line that appeared shorter than the rest and seemed to be filtering us humans like cattle through the less radiation-friendly whirly body scan monitor. In my three international countries in one-week work hangover exhaustion, I failed to remove my sunglasses atop my head, as well the phone charger lodged in my sports bra before going through the metal detector. The tall, stern, buzzcut Austrian-looking tattooed beefcake yelled “random” loudly and pointed to a chair he demanded I sit upon until I could proceed. The next hour was a ridiculous act in power-tripping. I never raised my voice yet was assaulted with silly words about opting out of the radiation, threatened they would call the police to deal with me, and taken to a private room and forced to sign a waiver for being felt-up. In the end, I was reminded the seamlessness between disrespecting myself allowing leakage into my environment.
One does evil enough when one does nothing good. ~German Proverb
Maybe you’re missing the very root of respect inside your own self. It had to be pointed out to me (again) that it doesn’t matter if the result is a trip to the moon, it’s addressing with whom you’re going. I’ve met A LOT of people who weren’t mirrored to any levels of goodness in their lives. Some have made lightyear leaps from their tough times, while others continue to fail. There’s very little rhyme for why one lost soul is shitty compared to another that is ultra kind. However, I will remark that each of the hearts I admire in their triumph has taken on the liberty to recognize humanity outside of themselves. They see the bigger perspective. It’s not solely about them, their money, their position in life. They notice the importance of caring beyond the ego. Civility favors courtesy. We reflect what we create. Liberally lathering your lifestyle with enough harmonious embrocation will make a world of difference and quite a difference in the world. Not to mention, the probability of your (political, conformity, or even humor) correctness will far exceed poor norms!
I’m not concerned with your liking or disliking me. All I ask is that you respect me as a human being. ~Jackie Robinson
Summoning your compassion wagon can be a challenge. But bigheartedness beats a better drum than beating someone up. Furthermore, just because someone else is hammering on you isn’t any authority for you to bully onward. Nor is this a competition for attention. It’s of no consequence our approval one to another. Instead, it is the foundation of intentional intestinal valor. Be in an attempt of thoughtfulness before you wind your ways. I was grateful to have the wherewithal to study my erstwhile mixed with fresh hiccups like a crystal ball contemplation. The temperamental flaw was discord in the empathetic nervous systems operating. It’s never an exterior element alone. If we’re attracting mayhem, then we ought to gaze more deeply upon our ‘need’ at retaining such a storyline of indecent exposure. When we encounter unwanted audacity it’s an opportunity to remember where tolerance meets generosity.
Be kind to unkind people; they need it the most! ~Buddhism
Let’s pump up the volume on politeness, please.