Glowing Light and Dark, Photo by BradensEye

There are teachings in the turbulent edges of tension. Humans feel and think loads of emotionally thoughtful exceptionality. To one person the same idea could be crossing boundaries, pushing limits that imply insanity or achievement. It’s the fact that we’re all prone to weakness, desperation, basically any apex that could be considered an emergency. You need not a special reason for your nerves to strike an alert. Herein, I’m sharing about channeling a philosophy of practically cuddling those ugly crimes against your happy humanity. My desire around dating our darkness is a simplistic proverb I’ve made that keeps me maintaining lively ability ~ Well-being is well, being. Meaning, to the greatest extent that we allow ourselves to fully ride our roller-coaster honestly the more our swells of panic to sadness may become as a skilled surfer’s wet dream. Just showing up as you truly are is a leg above a lot of us so many occasions.

When you light a candle you also cast a shadow. ~Ursula K. Le Guin

You can always trust two angles of our framework are operating simultaneously: the light and the dark. Both are in your favor should you decide to source guidance within each. It doesn’t matter how on top of the world we may be for ourselves or in others’ perceptions. The shape of anxiety is by no model an exact thing. Maybe similar to a ghost who’s outer lines aren’t defined, or sometimes not even seen, the trouble with our unrestful stresses are their shifty careening extremes. Effective dating can be an analogous anomaly. The concept that we’re supposed to be dancing with the diversity of more than one individual is often computed as cheating before any commitment has solidified. Dalliances with our dark side might cling to a parallel unproductive exclusivity. Instead, I encourage you to balance the frontier of your relationship aspirations toward remaining open to the candid credence of sufficiently sorting full monty.

Experimenting with a principle of profundity, perhaps you don’t rush your darkness. Sitting inside its sneakiness, even the pain, is the scope for ministering a deeper connection to self-agility. It can hit as indiscriminately as the recent Nashville tornado tore holes into my nephew’s Donelson Christian Academy school. I can be having a perfectly blissful day to then be rocked to the floor like a prize-winning Olympian ice-skating scandal. Where one second I was painting this pinch-me paradise mentality, immediately next I’m entertaining the potent immobility sinking through the notion of what would life be without two of my favorite people. Following the dank clouds invading my brain, I realized it was mandatory that I reserve a marvelous courting encounter for me. As soon as I set up a residency for my tears to release the ruin that once began to seed was replaced by my choice to preserve the space to actually pursue the sorrow.

A restless heart and a beautiful soul

It’s hitting me hard but I’m taking it slow ~
Kodaline, Sometimes

Presently surrounded by what others who know me well, and even I, might deem is most certainly one of “my” places in this world ~ the Sunshine Coast spoke to me as if an admirer writing a song to woo me. Gradually the granules of sand steadied my tone as if on display. Eloquently giving rise to not having to receive answers so much as smoothly being heard, I felt I was closer to nailing it. I believe I came to this being factory-installed to chase the light. Funny enough for such a sunny babe, what’s coloring the palette of plenty of my days are the stark riches of isolation or blackened reflections put in my way. I credit their existence is why we’re meant to stitch into our moves the multiplying of minutes to linger longer internally with any disorders of turbidity. Who are we competing with anyway? Stick with me and I bet you’ll be hooked on enabling yourself to be in it too. Rounding all of our time creates a romantic sphere of arcane meets purity delight.

Whenever you’re suspicious over any fleeting tugs of despair, I invite you to grab curiosity by the balls. Even in the shadiest obscurity, if giving enough over to exploration, I will uncover a fragment that lends its home more within the affirming family tree. Our rendezvous in the arena of darkening can include some blossoming. It’s why slight adjustments are essential keys for design, innovation, and all kinds of layers of living. Catching the charming out of uncomfy, peculiar, dangerous darkening brings unconventional support to meddlesome mysteries. The differences are the reduction definition separating that which is consuming versus being consumed. What we want to accomplish is pulling ourselves up from any heaving increase when our mood meanders against the poorly exhaustive intense train of thinking. It’s this inkling where I’m writing to tell you that I feel your overwhelm because it’s mine equally. Together, we can help solve our selves through embracing all of our parts.

May your flickering never falter to beam brightly between your moments of shiniest functioning.

LOVER of life. Especially people, places, philanthropy and photography.

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