Compassionate Creativity, Photo by BradensEye featuring the benevolent Sara Erenthal

True identity is complete ownership of self. Presenting one’s honest self to yourself daily can take a lot of effort. Through it all, we’re so quick to regard the reactions of those outside of ourself. We paint our faces, wear certain clothing, dye our hair, use particular modes of transportation, work specific jobs, shop distinct brands or locations, and allow our children to attend special schools all in the name of labeling that gets thrown against us. We aren’t all going to be the comedian who gets the top applause for an audience doubled-over in laughter. I’m not going to win Miss Universe or have ever had success on Who Wants To Be A Millionaire. I wasn’t born with chiseled features or the acute recall of a bazillion facts. You may call me carefree, beautiful, gypsy, intellectual, philosophical, or caring. I’ve equally been called unsettled, homeless, smarty-pants, minimalist, and intense. Labeling is a nuance whose drift is exhaustive, whereas it could be impressive.

Unlike a drop of water which loses its identity when it joins the ocean, man does not lose his being in the society in which he lives. Man’s life is independent. He is born not for the development of the society alone, but for the development of his self. ~B. R. Ambedkar

The true implications of any label placed in our direction are left up to us individually. I can rewrite the importance of why others flippantly refer to me laughingly as ‘homeless’ by lavishing them with tales of my nomadic lifestyle that affords me travels all over Earth. It has taken me until these words are pouring forth to build a solid relationship of satisfaction to a lot of the labels pinned on me. This is an ongoing dialogue within me. How to turn others words about me that I find offensive, stressful in any way, or justly incorrect into compassion is the mode I’ve adjusted along my travails. I know my family and friends care deeply for me. Whilst their concerns, questions, or completions they want to see changed in my world are theirs and not mine to bear. Strangers lobbing hooks of horrific labeling should think better. Although, we’ve contracted with a globe of marketing hyper-focused on branding built to have us follow labels, often failing to challenge the quality of any goods.

We don’t need bigger cars or fancier clothes. We need self-respect, identity, community, love, variety, beauty, challenge and a purpose in living that is greater than material accumulation. ~Donella Meadows

Identification with stuff is a plague upon our planet. Even in my parred down state, I think I’ve got way too many things. I persist wanting to rid myself of more for the sake of simplicity in conjunction with peace of mind. I search to intimately know what it feels like to not have a storage unit of items I don’t use regularly, nor a home where every corner and cupboard is packed bursting at the gills. I think I would enjoy a bit of time where all my possessions were with me, easily to be carried if I start walking and without need for checked airline luggage. I envision my materials of sincere value (beloved literature, artworks, jewelry or rare coins) may be consciously placed by me in worthy spaces. Maybe I create or donate to a library for those without typical access to books; furnish the walls of an Airbnb rental I obtain with excellent artistic flair; deliver jewelry to my goddaughter, niece, friends, or shelters to beautify women interviewing for jobs. Lofty goals are sometimes the improved targets. Aspirations assembled to reinvent new labels for serenity seem mighty sane.

I think every person has their own identity and beauty. Everyone being different is what is really beautiful. If we were all the same, it would be boring. ~Tila Tequila

I want to stop all the name-calling for the motive of fitting people in categories and labeling like it matters. It doesn’t! Stereotyping censures the depth of any human. Hollywood continues to be under a microscope related to its career term ‘type-casting’ for actors hired that fit consistent roles based on the traits, look, or social and ethnicity groups for which a script is calling. None of us will ever be one thing, of one variety exclusively, pursue one pattern, or breed a singular idea endlessly. We are the very creatures of diversity that protests, politics, and media decry we need to exemplify. If we would all take a big breath backward together to recognize everything we need to honor benefits everyone. Inequality is the contrast that deserves more light. Leaning on the ‘life isn’t fair’ cliché is archaic. Our differences are the unique genius of God’s work to get us to realize oneness is radiantly closer to that rainbow than a solid stripe.

To know what that true self is without social pressure is to know your true nature. ~Martha Beck

Characterization is best suited for admiration. Let’s lift ourselves on beyond labels for any derogatory profit. If you’ve been prone to nasty insults this is your chance for atonement. When we hear someone perpetrating negativity of tagging in a belittling manner we can step in to gracefully suggest a reexamination that emphasizes inclusion. Anything we release is a measure of our disposition. Sparking verbal abuse or acting out in anger are merely labels of personal discomfort unattended. We haven’t been placed here to become one man on Earth against all the animals and else. The sooner we lessen all socially ineffective constraints the faster the route to our innate benign sense of being. It’s much classier to forgo a stamp of scoring ourselves into separate groups. Instead, we can forge a humility of kindness for all humanity.

May your only need for labeling be the streets for positivity or jars of homemade treats you share as gifts.

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